THE ETIQUETTES OF NIKAAH IN KITAAB WA SUNNAH
*NIKAH* is the contract enacted between a man and woman for the purpose of enjoying each other and forming a good family through the ways ordered by Allah and His Messenger Muhammad.
Marriage has *BASIC* elements:
1.Bride's consent or permission.
2.wali's approval.
3.The dowry.
4. Waleematul nikah.
*[1]* *BRIDE'S CONSENT*
A bride's permission is a required element of the marriage contract.Without this permission ,the contract is null and void and that may be enforce by the bride.
The proof 👇👇👇
ﺃَﺧْﺒَﺮَﻧَﺎ ﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕُ ﺑْﻦُ ﻣَﻨْﺼُﻮﺭٍ، ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻳَﺤْﻴَﻰ ﺑْﻦُ ﺳَﻌِﻴﺪٍ، ﻋَﻦِ ﺍﺑْﻦِ ﺟُﺮَﻳْﺞٍ، ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺳَﻤِﻌْﺖُ ﺍﺑْﻦَ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﻣُﻠَﻴْﻜَﺔَ، ﻳُﺤَﺪِّﺙُ ﻋَﻦْ ﺫَﻛْﻮَﺍﻥَ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﻋَﻤْﺮٍﻭ، ﻋَﻦْ ﻋَﺎﺋِﺸَﺔَ، ﻋَﻦِ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺒِﻲِّ ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ﻗَﺎﻝَ " ﺍﺳْﺘَﺄْﻣِﺮُﻭﺍ ﺍﻟﻨِّﺴَﺎءَ ﻓِﻲ ﺃَﺑْﻀَﺎﻋِﻬِﻦَّ " . ﻗِﻴﻞَ ﻓَﺈِﻥَّ ﺍﻟْﺒِﻜْﺮَ ﺗَﺴْﺘَﺤِﻲ ﻭَﺗَﺴْﻜُﺖُ . ﻗَﺎﻝَ " ﻫُﻮَ ﺇِﺫْﻧُﻬَﺎ " .
It was narrated from 'Aishah that the Prophet said: "Seek the permission of women with regard to marriage." It was said: "What if a virgin is too shy and remains silent?" He said: "That is her permission."
Reference:Sunan an-Nasa\'i 3266
In-book reference:Book 26, Hadith 71
*[2]* *WALY'S APPROVAL*
A woman cannot independently give herself in marriage, her wali(parent or guardian) has the responsibility of stand for her if a Muslim.
A non Muslim including all the Ahlul bid'ah and onirujus cannot stand for their daughters as their wali's.
ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻋَﻠِﻲُّ ﺑْﻦُ ﺣُﺠْﺮٍ، ﺃَﺧْﺒَﺮَﻧَﺎ ﺷَﺮِﻳﻚُ ﺑْﻦُ ﻋَﺒْﺪِ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕَ، ح ﻭَﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻗُﺘَﻴْﺒَﺔُ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﺃَﺑُﻮ ﻋَﻮَﺍﻧَﺔَ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕَ، ح ﻭَﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻣُﺤَﻤَّﺪُ ﺑْﻦُ ﺑَﺸَّﺎﺭٍ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻋَﺒْﺪُ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺣْﻤَﻦِ ﺑْﻦُ ﻣَﻬْﺪِﻱٍّ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺇِﺳْﺮَﺍﺋِﻴﻞَ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕَ، ح ﻭَﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻋَﺒْﺪُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﺑْﻦُ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺯِﻳَﺎﺩٍ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﺯَﻳْﺪُ ﺑْﻦُ ﺣُﺒَﺎﺏٍ، ﻋَﻦْ ﻳُﻮﻧُﺲَ ﺑْﻦِ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕَ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺇِﺳْﺤَﺎﻕَ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﺑُﺮْﺩَﺓَ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺃَﺑِﻲ ﻣُﻮﺳَﻰ، ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺭَﺳُﻮﻝُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪِ ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ " ﻻَ ﻧِﻜَﺎﺡَ ﺇِﻻَّ ﺑِﻮَﻟِﻲٍّ " . ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻭَﻓِﻲ ﺍﻟْﺒَﺎﺏِ ﻋَﻦْ ﻋَﺎﺋِﺸَﺔَ ﻭَﺍﺑْﻦِ ﻋَﺒَّﺎﺱٍ ﻭَﺃَﺑِﻲ ﻫُﺮَﻳْﺮَﺓَ ﻭَﻋِﻤْﺮَﺍﻥَ ﺑْﻦِ ﺣُﺼَﻴْﻦٍ ﻭَﺃَﻧَﺲٍ .
Abu Musa narrated that : the Messenger of Allah said: "There is no marriage except with a Wali."
Reference:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1101
In-book reference:Book 11, Hadith 22
*[3]* *THE DOWRY*
In Islam,the dowry is a mandatory marriage gift given by the husband to his wife at wedding.
The party.
Surah An-Nisa, Verse 4:
وَآتُوا النِّسَاءَ صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً فَإِن طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَن شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْسًا فَكُلُوهُ هَنِيئًا مَّرِيئًا
And give unto the women (whom ye marry) free gift of their marriage portions; but if they of their own accord remit unto you a part thereof, then ye are welcome to absorb it (in your wealth).
(English - Pickthal)
Verse 24:
وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ كِتَابَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ وَأُحِلَّ لَكُم مَّا وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَن تَبْتَغُوا بِأَمْوَالِكُم مُّحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ فَمَا اسْتَمْتَعْتُم بِهِ مِنْهُنَّ فَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا تَرَاضَيْتُم بِهِ مِن بَعْدِ الْفَرِيضَةِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا
And all married women (are forbidden unto you) save those (captives) whom your right hands possess. It is a decree of Allah for you. Lawful unto you are all beyond those mentioned, so that ye seek them with your wealth in honest wedlock, not debauchery. And those of whom ye seek content (by marrying them), give unto them their portions as a duty. And there is no sin for you in what ye do by mutual agreement after the duty (hath been done). Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Wise.
(English - Pickthal)
via iQuran
*[4]* *WALEEMATU NIKAAH*
Publicize the marriage is the last condition of a marriage contract.
The husband must sponsor a feast after the *consummation* of the marriage.
The proof👇👇.
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الرَّبِيعِ الزَّهْرَانِيُّ، وَأَبُو كَامِلٍ فُضَيْلُ بْنُ حُسَيْنٍ وَقُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، - وَهُوَ ابْنُ زَيْدٍ - عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ، - وَفِي رِوَايَةِ أَبِي كَامِلٍ سَمِعْتُ أَنَسًا، - قَالَ مَا رَأَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَوْلَمَ عَلَى امْرَأَةٍ - وَقَالَ أَبُو كَامِلٍ عَلَى شَىْءٍ - مِنْ نِسَائِهِ مَا أَوْلَمَ عَلَى زَيْنَبَ فَإِنَّهُ ذَبَحَ شَاةً .
Anas (Allah be pleased with him) reported:
I did not see Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) giving a wedding feast (on the marriage) of any one (of his wives) as he did in the case of (his marriage with) Zainab, for then he sacrificed a goat (on this occasion).
Sahih Muslim 1428 c
In-book : Book 16, Hadith 106
USC-MSA web (English) : Book 8, Hadith 3331 (deprecated)
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