ASOF - 2021
ISLAMIC STUDIES DARASI NA 63
Gabatarwar-Abdulrashid Abdullahi, Kano
The meaning of doing justice between wives
Ma'anar yin adalci tsakanin mata
Kamar yadda yazo a hadisi mutumin da ya auri mace sama da daya kuma ya aikata rashin adalci a tsakanin su za'a tashe shi tare da sassan jikinsa suna fadowa (Abu dawud nisa'i da ibn majah)
Adalcin da ake buƙata na miji tsakanin mata shine dangane da kulawar su (ciyarwa, suttura, masauki) da kuma duk wata kyauta da zai bayar. Hakanan yana wajabta masa nutsar da lokacinsa daidai saboda kowane yana da rabon kamfaninsa.
Koyaya, yayin da zai yiwu ga maigida ya mallaki wannan bangare na samarwarsa da halayensa, ba zai yiwu ya hana kansa jin kaunar mace daya fiye da wata ba. An gane wannan a wata ayar qur'an
وَلَنْ تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَنْ تَعْدِلُوا بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ ۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُوا كُلَّ الْمَيْلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَالْمُعَلَّقَةِ ۚ وَإِنْ تُصْلِحُوا وَتَتَّقُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا
Kuma bã zã ku iya yin ãdalci ba a tsakanin(1) mãtã kõ dã kun yi kwaɗayin yi. Sabõda haka kada ku karkata, dukan karkata, har ku bar ta kamar wadda aka rãtaye. Kuma idan kun yi sulhu, kuma kuka yi taƙawa, to, lalle ne Allah Yã kasance Mai gãfara, Mai jin ƙai.
(Alkurani 4: 129)
Don haka ko da a yankin da yake da matukar wahalar aunawa da sarrafa halayensa, miji ba zai bari soyayyar da yake wa wata matar ta haifar da sakaci da wata ba, don haka sai a bar ta cikin shakku, tana jin rashin tabbas kuma ba ta bukata.
Lallai sharadin yin adalci tsakanin mata yana da wuyar haduwa, kuma duk wani miji da ke tunanin shiga wani aure na biyu ko wanda zai biyo baya ya kamata ya yi la’akari sosai da irin nauyin da ke kansa da kuma matsalolin da zai iya fuskanta yayin yin adalci.
According to a hadith a man who marries more than one woman and who act unjustly between them will be resurrected with parts of his body falling off ( Abu dawud nisa'i and ibn majah)
The justice required of a husband between wives is in respect of their maintenance ( feeding , clothing, accomodation) and also of any presents that he may give . It also obliges him to divede up his time fairly so that each has a share of his company.
However, while it is possible for a husband to control these aspect of his provision and behavior , it is not possible to stop himself from feeling more love for one wife than another . This is recognized in another qur'anic verse
(Quran 4:129)
Therefore even in the area where it is most difficult to measure and control his behavior, the husband is not to allow his love for one wife to lead to neglect of another , so that she is left to in suspense , feeling uncertain and unwanted.
Indeed the condition for doing justice between wives are hard to meet , and any husband thinking of embarking on a second or subsequent marriage should consider carefully the responsibilities that he is taking on and the difficulties he is likely to face in doing justice
Abdulrashid Abdullahi Musa
9/April/2021 phone 09067298607