TO THOSE WITH ONE WIFE.
Assāhib bn Ubbād said:
"I met the Muslim biographers saying, "If a Muslim man dies and leaves two or more wives they will say he passed away and left UNDER him his wives. But if he had just one wife, they will say, he passed away and left ABOVE him his wife.".This is because one wife will be on top of him whether he realizes it or not.
Ibn Sīnā said:
"The one with one wife suffers ailments in his body and soul. His body grows older than his actual age. He suffers pains in his backbones, knees and joints. He suffers severe haplessness and hopelessness. His face loses the real brightness and his nagging and whining becomes extreme."
Al-Qādī bn Abī Mas'ūd said:
"He who has just one wife is NOT fit for the post of a judge or settling dispute among people." (This is because he cannot settle disputes between two wifes).
Ibn Hayyān at-Tawhīdī said:
"I met a people who would never allow anyone with just one wife to sit in the same circle with them. They consider him to be among the minors."
Ibn Khaldūn said:
"I looked critically at (the history of) the destroyed nations and I realized that they were used to being married to just one wife."
Al-'Ābid bn Mīsār said:
"A man shall not be firm in his religiosity if he has just one wife."
It was said to Ma'mūn bn Hārūn ar-Rashīd:
"There are people in Basrah, each of whom is married to just one wife. He said, they are NOT men. Their wives are the real men. They violate nature and Sunnah."
It was said to Abū Ma'rūf al-Karakhī:
"What's the ruling of a people who claim ascetism and chose to marry only one wife? He said, they are blind. No matter how ascetic they are, they never can reach ⅒ of the level of Abūbakr, or Umar or Uthmān or Alī who had wives.
"Ibn Fayyād was asked concerning men with only one wife. He said, they are not real men living but men eating, drinking and breathing."
"When ibn Is'hāq an-Naysābūrī was appointed as governor of AlKirk, he stopped payment of donations to those with just one wife. When he was queried for his decision, he said, this is the wealth of Allāh and we shall not give it to the selfish...."
"Ibn 'Atā-Allāh said concerning people with just one wife, "Whoever does not insist on establishing the Sunnah of the elders of the ummah that is also the Sunnah of Prophet and sahabas we count him to be among the UNSERIOUS."
"When Taqiyyuddīn al-Muzanī traveled to Samarkand as a jurist, the people said, each man among so and so tribe is married to just one wife. He replied, and they are Muslims? (He doubted the strength of their faith). So he admonished them so much so that before the next moon, about three thousands of them conducted another marriage to the extent that all women, singles or previously married (but widowed or divorced) became married."
Imām al-Husarī said:
"When Allāh mentioned marriage, He started with two, three and four, leaving one for the last. This is because fear diminishes the perfection of a man.(That is, why would a man fear injustice among multiple wives and rather opt for just one, if truly he's a man?)"
The population of women this days is much, sister's fear Allah and allow your husband's get married to those sister's. Just imagine 5 brothers can marry 20 sister's. Men fear Allah and stop being afraid of your wife like your forefathers. Let's reduce the population of unmarried sister's, for they are not finding it easy, it is better to be a second to third wive then to remain single. Pray for Allah's direction and do the needful, no time to check time.
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