ASOF - 2021
ISLAMIC STUDIES DARASI NA 57
Gabatarwar-Abdulrashid Abdullahi, Kano
Duties and Right of husband and wife
Aiki da Hakkin miji da mata
1- wajibin juna na aure
Aure dangi ne wanda Wanda ya kunshi wajibin juna. Aikin miji hakkin mace ne akan na miji. An bayyana su a nan ƙarƙashin taken ayyuka, amma ya kamata a fahimci cewa aiwatar da aikin daga ɗayan abokin tarayya haƙƙin abokin tarayya ne.
Ya kamata a tuna cewa alaƙar aure a Musulunci an bayyana ta da soyayya, tausayi da kwanciyar hankali. Don haka don auren ya kasance mai nasara yana da mahimmanci kawai a cika harafin doka ba dangane da ayyukan cikin aure, amma a aiwatar da su cikin halin kirki na alheri da kyakkyawar niyya. Duk irin wadannan halaye ne sadaka karbabbu ne a matsayin sadaqah da kuma ibada. Kamar yadda hakan zai kawo albarka ga abokan huldar kuma akasari shine auren zai kasance mai dadi.
2- shugabancin iyali
Iyali kamar ƙungiya ce don fa'idodin zaman tare na membobinta, Duk wani rukuni na ƙungiya dole ne ya sami shugaba wanda ke da alhakin yanke hukunci na ƙarshe. Ba za ta iya samun shugabanni biyu ba ko kuma su jagoranci ta fuskoki daban-daban, wanda hakan zai haifar da rabuwar kai da ruguza rukunin, a wannan yanayin dangi a Musulunci ne miji ya sauke nauyin jagoranci.
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ ۚ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ ۚ وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا
Maza mãsu tsayuwa ne(1) a kan mãtã, sabõda abin da Allah Ya fifita sãshensu da shi a kan sãshe kuma sabõda abin da suka ciyar daga dũkiyõyinsu. To, sãlihan mãtã mãsu ɗã´a ne, mãsu tsarħwa ga gaibi sabõda abin da Allah Ya tsare. Kuma waɗanda kuke tsõron bijirewarsu, to, ku yi musu gargaɗi, kuma ku ƙaurace musu a cikin wurãren kwanciya, kuma ku dõke su. Sa´an nan kuma, idan sun yi muku ɗa´a, to, kada ku nħmi wata hanya a kansu. Lalle ne Allah Yã kasance Maɗaukaki, Mai girma.
(Alkur'ani 4: 34)
وَالْمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ ثَلَاثَةَ قُرُوءٍ ۚ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَهُنَّ أَنْ يَكْتُمْنَ مَا خَلَقَ اللَّهُ فِي أَرْحَامِهِنَّ إِنْ كُنَّ يُؤْمِنَّ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ ۚ وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُوا إِصْلَاحًا ۚ وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ
Kuma mãtã waɗanda(3) aka saki aurensu, suna jinkiri da kansu tsarki uku. Kuma bã ya halatta a gare su, su ɓõye abin da Allah Ya halitta a cikin mahaifunsu, idan sun kasance suna yin ĩmãni da Allah da Rãnar Lãhira. Kuma mazan aurensu su ne mafiya haƙƙi ga mayar da su a cikin wancan, idan sun yi nufin gyãrawa. Kuma sũ mãtan suna da kamar abin da yake a kansu, yadda aka sani. Kuma maza suna da wata daraja a kansu (su mãtan). Kuma Allah Mabuwãyi ne, Mai hikima. (Alkur'ani 2: 228)
Daga cikin ayoyin Alkur'ani da ke sama, za a ga cewa shugabanci na maza ba mulkin kama-karya bane. Akwai bambanci kawai tsakanin su mace kuma tana da hakki irin na maza kuma ya kamata, saboda haka a ba shi shawara kuma a tuntube shi a kan batutuwan da suka shafi rayuwar dangi, duk da haka idan har miji bai yarda da shawarar matar ba sai ta gane shugabancinsa da babban aikinsa da yin yadda yake so, matuqar abin da ya yanke ba zai saba ba da shari'a ba.
1- mutual obligations of marriage
Marriage is a relationship Wich entails mutual obligations. The duties of the husband are the right of the wife are the right of husband . They are described here under the heading of duties ,but it is to be understood that the performance of the duty by one partner is the right of the other partner.
It Should be recalled that the relationship of marriage in Islam is described as one of love, compassion and tranquility. Therefore for a marriage tobe successful it is important not only to fulfil the letter of the law with regards to the duties in marriage, but to carry them out in the right spirit of kindness and good will . All such charitable behavior is accepted as sadaqah and an act of worship. As such it will bring blessing on the partners and it is most likely that the marriage will be a happy one.
2- headship of the family
A family is an organizational unit for the mutul benefit of it's members, Any organizational unit must have a leader who is responsible for making final decision . It cannot have two leaders or they may lead in different directions, resulting in the break up and destruction of the unit , in this case the family in Islam the husband to fulfil the responsibility of leadership
(Qur'an 4: 34)
(Qur'an 2: 228)
From the above Qur'anic verses, it will be seen that mens leadership is not a dictatorship . There is only a degree difference between them the woman also have right similar to those of men and should , therefore be given consideration and consulted on matters of mutual concern in family life, however in case husband does not accept the wife's advise she is to recognise his leadership and ultimate responsibility and do as he wishes, as long as what he decides is not contrary
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