OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR FAMILIES
. BismilLahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
We all know the important role our parents play in our lives as Muslims particularly our mother. Our mothers go through pains and sufferings during pregnancy and go through sleepless nights. It becomes worse during labour. There is nothing on earth that you can do as a child to repay your mum for that even if you carry her on foot to hajj, you've done nothing in reciprocating her pains and sufferings. Our parents as a team provided for all our needs as infants. They may have made lots of errors or mistakes in our upbringing but we cannot just ignore the pains of pregnancy and Labour.
Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully. In lieu of this, it becomes obligatory for us to show the utmost kindness, respect, and obedience to our parents. The position of parents, and the mutual obligations and responsibilities, have been addressed in Islam in great detail. The Qur'anic commandments, as well as the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) guide us in this matter. The parent-child code of behavior in Islam is unique, since rules were laid down by divine command.
References to parents have been made at least 15 times in the Holy Qur'an. There are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) on this subject. I will in Shaa ALLAH quote some of these narrations in the 2nd Reminder but before that, let's renew our relationship with our parents as Ramadan approaches. Don't allow Ramadan to start and you still have issues with your parents to resolve. Accept guilty regardless of what they've done as a strategy to reunite with your parents. You loose nothing if you tell them you are sorry and you are guilty to create unity. You shouldn't expect your parents to say this to you instead. Pride and Arrogance is worse source of failure in life. To be continued in Shaa ALLAH. *_May ALLAH keep guiding us all and increases us in beneficial knowledge_*. Aameen.
