ASOF - 2021
ISLAMIC STUDIES DARASI NA 54
Gabatarwar-Abdulrashid Abdullahi, Kano
Validity of marriage ( two suitors seeking the same girl)
Ingancin aure (masu neman aure biyu suna neman yarinya guda daya)
Idan daya daga cikin masu neman auren ya tunkari wani waliyyin da ke neman auren mace kuma a can akwai alamun da ke nuna idan tana son shi, ba a yarda wani mai neman ya gabatar da nasa neman ba sai dai idan mai neman na farko da kansa ya janye bukatar tasa, a cewar Hadisi daga uqbah ibn amir
"Mumini É—an'uwan mumini ne, saboda haka baya halatta a gare shi ya yi ciniki a kan cinikin É—an'uwansa, ko kuma ya ba da shawara (ga yarinyar a kan neman auren É—an'uwansa, sai dai daga baya (da kansa ya janye shaawarsa na auren) (Muslim)
Haramcin ya hana ƙiyayya tsakanin masu neman aure. Hakan kuma yana dakatar dasu daga shiga gasar kyaututtuka ko alkawuran kyaututtuka ga dangi a kokarin fin karfin juna. Wannan al'adar Wanda wani lokaci dangi masu son kai na karfafa gwiwa yana sanya yarinyar ta zama gwanjo ga mai siye Mai kudi. Wannan kuwa ya saba wa koyarwar Musulunci. Abubuwan da addinin musulunci ya tanada shine sadakin kanta (sadaqah) a matsayin kyauta ga yarinyar Kur'ani sura na 4 aya ta 4 kuma ya kasance ga amarya ta fadi abin da aka yarda da shi a matsayin sadakinta. Aikin bayar da kyaututtuka daban-daban na tilas ga dangin amarya, galibi sun fi karfin sadakin amarya, ba shi da takaddama a cikin auratayya kuma yana aiki ne kawai don sanya cikas na kudi a hanyar aure Wanda ya saba wa Musulunci (shi shi ma yana haifar da matsaloli da yawa a yayin mutuwar saki ta khul'i.
If one suitor has approached a guardian seeking girls hand in marriage , and there already signs if her inclination to acceptance, it is not approved for another suitor to make his own proposal unless the first suitor voluntarily withdraws his suit, according to Hadith from uqbah ibn amir
" A believer is a brother of a believer, hence it is not lawful for him to bargain upon the bargain of a brother , nor propose( for the hand of girl on the marriage proposal of his brother , unless the later (voluntarily withdraws his proposal ( Muslim)
The prohibition prevents enmity between rival suitors. It also stops them from competing in gifts or promises of gifts to the family in an effort to outbid each other . This practice Wich sometimes encouraged by selfish relatives makes it seems that the girl is up for auction to highest bidder. This is contrary to the teaching of Islam . The strictly Islamic requirements is dowry itself (sadaqah) as a free gift to the friends Qur'an chapter verses 4 it is moreover for the bride to say what consider acceptable as her dowry . The practice of making various compulsory gift to the brides family, often far in excess of the bride own dowry , has no sanction in islan and serves only to place financial obstacles in the way of marriage Wich is quite contrary to the sprit of Islam ( it is also raises many problems in the event of divorce by khul'i.
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